Uninvolved Parenting
By Kendra Cherry
Uninvolved parenting, sometimes referred to as neglectful parenting, is a style characterized by a lack of responsiveness to a child’s needs. Uninvolved parents make few to no demands of their children and they are often indifferent, dismissive or even completely neglectful.
These parents have little emotional involvement with their kids. While they provide for basic needs like food and shelter, they are uninvolved in their children’s lives. The degree of involvement may vary considerably. Some uninvolved parents may be relatively hands-off with their kids, but may still have some basic limits such as curfews. Others may be downright neglectful or even reject their children outright.
Characteristics of the Uninvolved Parenting Style
Uninvolved parents:
- Are emotionally distant from their children
- Offer little or no supervision
- Show little warmth, love and affection towards their children
- Have few or no expectations or demands for behavior
- Don’t attend school events and parent-teacher conferences
- May intentionally avoid their children
- Are often too overwhelmed by their own problems to deal with their children
The Effects of Uninvolved Parenting
Children raised by uninvolved parents:
- Must learn to provide for themselves
- Fear becoming dependent on other people
- Are often emotionally withdrawn
- Tend to exhibit more delinquency during adolescence
- Feel fear, anxiety or stress due to the lack of family support
- Have an increased risk of substance abuse
Understanding Uninvolved Parenting
Researchers associate parenting styles with a range of child outcomes in areas such as social skills and academic performance. The children of uninvolved parents generally perform poorly in nearly every area of life. These children tend to display deficits in cognition, attachment, emotional skills and social skills.
Due to the lack of emotional responsiveness and love from their caretakers, children raised by uninvolved parents may have difficulty forming attachments later in life. The complete lack of boundaries in the home makes it difficult to learn appropriate behaviors and limits in school and other social situations, which is why children with uninvolved parents are more likely to misbehave.
Parents who exhibit an uninvolved parenting style were often themselves raised by uninvolved and dismissive parents. As adults, they may find themselves repeating the same patterns they were raised with. Other parents who display this style may simply be so caught up in their busy lives that they find it easier to take a hands-off approach to dealing with their children.
In some cases, parents may be so wrapped up in their own problems (i.e., being overworked, coping with depression, struggling with substance abuse) that they actually fail to see how uninvolved they are with their children or are simply unable to provide the emotional support their children need.
